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It may well be a question of anxiety. I can virtually never climax when a woman is giving me oral sex because I get worked up about it (I think). Many men do enjoy performing cunnilingus on a woman to the point of orgasm, I know I do. I am not close enough to do a demonstration (!), but I'm sure many men are and have the necessary skill set. It may very well (for you) require a greater deal of familiarity with your partner to allow you to relax enough, but from my observational experience , women really do enjoy it - and a good lover is interested in pleasing their partner.
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It may be depending on their age they cannot get or sustain an erection. It could be they are average down below and it "evens things up" in their mind with men who have been blessed more than they from a competitive perspective. Could be they are out of shape and have zero stamina. Then again it could be they are really into you and want to do something they feel is more intimate than intercourse. They like your scent and taste. I am really turned on by my wife in that regard. I had a torn meniscus in my knee and it hindered my mobility. I told her the things she hears from guys all the time. I can do it for hours, I am the best ever etc etc. Anyway she would always have a good laugh with me about it because it is really old and tired. Oh and no you are not weird at all. It might just not be your thing. I did a blog about the oral thing. Hope you get 100 orgasms or organisms as one person referred to it today on here. I am going to tell my wife when she calls to get ready for the best organism ever because you know I am great at oral and can do it for hours and hours and hours.................. Oh and of course my favorite of all time "The lady is first"! Have a fantastic night.
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I think your take on "who's good at it" is sorta like a line on my profile. Anyone can say anything on here. LOL It's not always without embellishment. I think, unfortunately, is one of those 'proof is in the pudding" kind of things. If they're good, you'll know it. I dated a lady a while back that said she rarely had a orgasm, but still enjoyed sex. But I think she was just smarter than me, cause she knew I'd take that as a challenge LOL. I can't say it's a deal breaker...but I do enjoy oral. So it does factor into the overall equation. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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10/17/2018 2:53 pm |
I'm in the same boat as yourself. Had bad experiences and found oral is expected from me, only to feel uncomfortable. The last bf bragged that he was good in the sack, only left me disappointed and very frustrated. So going on my past experience, I with you on the subject. [post 4150968]
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I for one want even get sexual AT ALL IF EATING PUSSY IS HAPPENING. I was broke in by two bi-older women. They gave me a four-five hour bedroom class,ACED IT! LOL to make sure that I at the very lease satisfied the lady first...and personally if your not eating pussy men, you will loose your woman to the first man/woman that knows what their doing. And anyway I'm still looking for a squirter. HAPPY HUNTING
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Depends on the immediate situation. I like to be able to "communicate" with verbals or motions if I want some oral stimulation/gratification. I do not like it 1. when the man thinks it's either what I expect as part of the foreplay or culmination of the fun 2. when the man thinks it's his "right" to "get some" as part of the foreplay and ignores the no-no factors The progression of the situation should be spontaneity and if oral becomes part of that I love it usually with the caveat that I already encourage him to be "good" and when he's not up to what I need- hauling in the reins in a respectful manner. I'd rather have no sex at all than poor or expected oral (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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10/17/2018 3:03 pm |
Oral is a foreplay to more joyful actions, Yes I enjoy oral very much. Love to preform it on the ladies. Do they cum or get pleasure from it? Most do.....my goal is to make sure she enjoys any sexual play that we may go into. Its not a deal breaker but I do enjoy giving it.
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Love giving oral. Makes me so horny
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I'm not that much into receiving oral. It's not that I don't enjoy it, but apparently it's just not as pleasurable for me as it seems to be for others. It doesn't take long until I usually start to feel raw and sore and at that point just want it to stop. As for giving...as BiggLala said, if it's expected, it's a deal breaker. I love giving oral, but if I'm told to do it...well, let's just say you may want to think twice about sticking that thing in my mouth.
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Wow. Ya got peeps writing novels here. Lol. I posted a blog post in your honor today-called Did She Really Have an Orgasm? And last week I asked your Q and titled it Fellatio Fun and The City Bus.. Both short pieces. Anyway. Yes it's a deal breaker and no I don't demand that from my lover. Take care.. See you on my side of the building one day ? ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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10/17/2018 3:20 pm |
Oral is a 2 way street. I LOVE to give oral, but she has to love to receive it as well. Tell me if I am doing something you don't like and better yet tell me what to do to make you cum. Every woman is different. I have had women sit on my face spread their lips ride my mouth while they finger themselves. They ended up gushing into my mouth damn near drowning me. That was so hot I came without even having to touch my cock. I was so hot and bothered we kept going until I got hard again and fucked. It was more about her loving to receive oral than it was about me loving to give it.
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Yes! if you haven't had good oral, you need to get out more to appreciate what been missing...
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I've always enjoyed giving oral and have found the vast majority of women appreciate a man who is willing to do it. l think the key to doing it well is to be sensitive to what the woman you are with wants. There is no one right way. some women like it gentler, others more urgent and that can always change so always be aware of how your partner responds to what you do. It really is about her pleasure, and you never you might realise that giving pleasure can enhance your own experience
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I agree partially with Loopy. I do loves oral, a lot, giving and getting, as long as it's a natural thing. I never "expect" sex of any kind but I do prefer oral every time if possible. Far as how good or not goes. Different people like things done different ways. So you listen to them either in discussing the hows and you listen to their reaction(s) to what you're doing. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Few points... Most women EXPECT oral sex from you. And if you dont do it- then most of them will stop talking to you. As one told me, "There was nothing more to discuss." Now when MEN expect it, we are seen as UNCOUTH, CHAUVINISTIC BARBARIANS... this shows how important oral is to the genders. Some of us indeed DONT enjoy it, but what happens is we enjoy giving pleasure. Hell- one person told me if she could get it for an hour- she would be most happy! Back when i was having sex, i took oral sex off the table due to ongoing disapppointments and one sided performances where women relied ONLY on dick sucking abilities and nothing else. It thinned out the herd even more when you ask a woman WHAT ELSE DOES SHE BRING TO THE TABLE... ~Linc was here.~
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10/17/2018 4:57 pm |
There is a standard formula to giving oral but it has to be adjusted for the individual. I've never known a woman to be satisfied from just oral even though I've gotten one or two to ejaculate. So, it's not likely to be you, in all you perfect splendor. I learned by watching girl/ girl porn. I was dedicated and I practiced and they've all said I was good but at the end of the day it isn't enough.
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10/17/2018 5:12 pm |
I really think it depends on the woman. Some swear by it and others prefer vaginal penetration. My wife likes both, but tells me there is a different kind of orgasm with oral focused on the clit VS penetration. Also, perhaps women go through phases. I don't know. But oral was the ticket for my wife through much of her life, although she did have some orgasms through screwing, mostly with her on top so she could control the angle and rhythm . Since she is going through menopause, I think her desire for oral is less and intercourse more. But she still likes both depending on her mood. As far as giving oral is concerned, I think she agrees with @Wonder167. She gets off on the power of her being the one to "make" a man cum. "Age cannot wither her, nor custom stale her infinite variety" Shakespeare
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Looking good
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I don't expect to receive oral at all. I do enjoy giving, if it is something that is wanted.
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My theory is that a lot of what people - both genders - enjoy (and expect) sexually . . . is grounded in their early, coming-of-age-sexually experiences. In hindsight, I was fortunate to have a girlfriend at a young age, who wasn't ready to have full-sex. So we exchanged oral for months, including taking turns on each other and doing 69. I wasn't so sure I was fortunate at the time - grin. Perhaps because of that, I realized that I will actually rather give oral than receive it. Oh sure, it's lovely to receive a blowjob. But it's even more arousing to me to give cunnilingus. It's not for me to say whether I have any special talent for it. Only that I like to eat pussy almost as much as I like penetration . . . almost . . . because nothing tops the feeling of penetrative sex. For sure, it's nice if the woman giving ME oral is talented and enthusiastic. But even then, receiving is 3rd-best . . . behind me giving oral (in 2nd place) and full-on sex in first. Happily, all of the above is usually on the menu, but receiving is never the highlight for me - more like a pleasant appetizer. Possibly you are my reciprocal number . . . preferring to give than to receive. Nothing wrong with that - or with you. Different people can enjoy different things, ya.
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I love giving oral, not that into receiving it tho, maybe just havnt met the right gal with the skills, but if a woman I am gonna be intimate with doestn like or want oral from me, well, I will let her get by with that once, but a 2nd date is unlikely.
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I feel about giving oral the same way you do. It's nice to reduce her to a gasping heap and then sit up and grin at her.
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